People always leave. Don't let them take a part of you with them.
So "people always leave", if you have ever watched One Tree Hill you'd know who said that. Yes its none other than Peyton Sawyer. I strongly supported that statement, but today, i modified it i.e, the title of the post.
They leave because that's what people do. The majority at least. And yet, even after the pain we go through when these people leave, we still find ways of latching on justifying everything and we fall for the same trap all over again. We trust and have faith in the other people who come, and then we feel like shit when once again, they leave. Why? I keep asking myself why we care, why we let ourselves care so much after learning the same lesson over and over again. Well i'm not gonna try and answer it but i will say something both for and against this.
You know how you believe in god? In an almighty power that is looking after us? Well i respect that, but i believe in people. You know like some people prefer putting their faith in stones? what am about to say is something my best friend told me, she said that we believe in people, even though they leave, they betray, they ditch, they break our hearts yet we still believe. Because the faith that they give us, its almost magical, that feeling of having someone who you think understands you, gets you, who can always make you feel better, the assurance of someone like this in our lives, it makes us feel incredible. And my friend, she told me that this feeling that we get, none of those others will ever get.
So i guess that's why we fall for the trap again. But today i realized how much we give to have this feeling, how much of our own self is sacrificed to achieve this feeling. And its really not fair, that you keep giving, and you keep fighting for this someone, while they get to walk out on you. Its not right. Another friend told me today- People only hurt you when you let them. And that is true, its not that we give ppl the liberty to hurt us, its just that we trust them so much that we come to believe they will never hurt us or leave us. But they do, and that's when it stops making sense, when they do leave, we feel powerless, vulnerable, weak, exposed, empty like they walked out of your life with a part of you.
No one in this whole world should have that kind of power over us, no one should have that kind of control over us, that one step they take ruins us. Just a few words like "Its done" or "its over" or "i cant do this anymore" or "i'm not ready", just these 3-4 words should not have the capacity to bring your whole world down. No one but yourself should ever be responsible for you. Giving someone that kind of control over your mind and heart is just wrong.
But somehow even after knowing that we tend to give in, we tend to fight till the very last second for such people. But the people who leave, they are just cowards, they are the weak ones and just because they can manage to walk out and continue to live normally, doesn't make them strong. You wanting to fight for them, for trying to stop them or justifying their actions isn't being weak, its just that you care and they don't. Its just that you don't wanna loose the feeling of security and protection that they give you. And there is nothing wrong in wanting that, its human. Bottom line is, people who leave are not worth fighting for. Because there comes a point when you realize that you have changed yourself for their good, for their happiness, because you care, and then comes a point when you no longer like the change. When you change yourself into someone you no longer can face in the mirror, that's when you know its time to stop fighting, that its time to let go, because they are no longer worth fighting for.
So don't blame yourself for falling into the trap of trust and faith, for caring, for believing in people, because you are simply trying to find that incredible feeling of being loved, cherished, protected, and that's just human. So what if people leave, there will always be some who stay, out of the 7 billion ppl there will surely be one who will stay, or more. Its okay to believe in ppl, even though they leave, as long as they don't take a part of you with them. But don't ever give someone the kind of power to bring you down while they get to escape, that kind of power is only yours to have.
Recommended Songs: 1. Begin by letting go - ETHERWOOD
2. Bravado - LORDE
They leave because that's what people do. The majority at least. And yet, even after the pain we go through when these people leave, we still find ways of latching on justifying everything and we fall for the same trap all over again. We trust and have faith in the other people who come, and then we feel like shit when once again, they leave. Why? I keep asking myself why we care, why we let ourselves care so much after learning the same lesson over and over again. Well i'm not gonna try and answer it but i will say something both for and against this.
You know how you believe in god? In an almighty power that is looking after us? Well i respect that, but i believe in people. You know like some people prefer putting their faith in stones? what am about to say is something my best friend told me, she said that we believe in people, even though they leave, they betray, they ditch, they break our hearts yet we still believe. Because the faith that they give us, its almost magical, that feeling of having someone who you think understands you, gets you, who can always make you feel better, the assurance of someone like this in our lives, it makes us feel incredible. And my friend, she told me that this feeling that we get, none of those others will ever get.
So i guess that's why we fall for the trap again. But today i realized how much we give to have this feeling, how much of our own self is sacrificed to achieve this feeling. And its really not fair, that you keep giving, and you keep fighting for this someone, while they get to walk out on you. Its not right. Another friend told me today- People only hurt you when you let them. And that is true, its not that we give ppl the liberty to hurt us, its just that we trust them so much that we come to believe they will never hurt us or leave us. But they do, and that's when it stops making sense, when they do leave, we feel powerless, vulnerable, weak, exposed, empty like they walked out of your life with a part of you.
No one in this whole world should have that kind of power over us, no one should have that kind of control over us, that one step they take ruins us. Just a few words like "Its done" or "its over" or "i cant do this anymore" or "i'm not ready", just these 3-4 words should not have the capacity to bring your whole world down. No one but yourself should ever be responsible for you. Giving someone that kind of control over your mind and heart is just wrong.
But somehow even after knowing that we tend to give in, we tend to fight till the very last second for such people. But the people who leave, they are just cowards, they are the weak ones and just because they can manage to walk out and continue to live normally, doesn't make them strong. You wanting to fight for them, for trying to stop them or justifying their actions isn't being weak, its just that you care and they don't. Its just that you don't wanna loose the feeling of security and protection that they give you. And there is nothing wrong in wanting that, its human. Bottom line is, people who leave are not worth fighting for. Because there comes a point when you realize that you have changed yourself for their good, for their happiness, because you care, and then comes a point when you no longer like the change. When you change yourself into someone you no longer can face in the mirror, that's when you know its time to stop fighting, that its time to let go, because they are no longer worth fighting for.
So don't blame yourself for falling into the trap of trust and faith, for caring, for believing in people, because you are simply trying to find that incredible feeling of being loved, cherished, protected, and that's just human. So what if people leave, there will always be some who stay, out of the 7 billion ppl there will surely be one who will stay, or more. Its okay to believe in ppl, even though they leave, as long as they don't take a part of you with them. But don't ever give someone the kind of power to bring you down while they get to escape, that kind of power is only yours to have.
Recommended Songs: 1. Begin by letting go - ETHERWOOD
2. Bravado - LORDE
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